akhir-akhir ini beberapa kali terjebak obrolan piye carane nahan mangkel atau emosi yang berlebihan. terutama sama orang yang tiap hari (mau ndak mau) tetap berinteraksi apapun masalahnya dan semangkel apapun sayah. kalau kata teman menclek sayah pas saya curhat tentang saya yang nahan diri biar ndak gegeran sama temen kantor yang karena dia saya sampai kena SP yang walau akhirnya SP saya dicabut, tapi tetep ae yang namanya kadung mangkel dan marah tetep ada. dan saya curhat bahwa saya rasanya pingin nelen temen kantor saya itu bulet-bulet, kalau perlu ndak pake acara dikunyah *eh *self toyor* =)).
komentar temen saya itu cuman satu, dia bilang satu-satunya cara biar ndak mangkel, kalau kamu lihat wajah temenmu, lihat wajah dia sebagai wajah orang yang kau cinta. dan dengan semena-mena langsung saya tolak.. ora isooo ngunuuu jaaal. =))
dan semalam juga terlibat obrolan, sama seorang teman yang dia diculasi sama temen kantornya demi sebuah posisi. ya ampun.. dunia kerja ini serem yah.. mending nikah aja ngurus suamik *eh =))
dan pagi ini iseng-iseng googling tentang anger management. yang katanya rasa marah, mangkel itu manusiawi. cuman kadarnya yang perlu dikontrol agar tidak menimbulkan problem.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and control anger. sumber dari sini.
terus iseng-iseng ikutan anger management test, dan ternyata score sayah cuman 30, yang artinya saya itu ndak gampang marah. *benerin pasmina* *eh =)). tapi-tapi ada yang bikin hatik ndak enak pas baca hasilnya, yaitu pada kalimat :
Your overall anger score is low. This means that you are rather skilled at coping with potentially angering situations. There is also the possibility, however, that you are denying your real feelings of anger. The questions on this test dealt with some situations in which it is normal and understandable to feel angry. Your score indicates that you rarely felt anger, even in situations where most people would. On the one hand, this can be very positive - you may have reached a stage of enlightenment most of us never obtain - but there could be other reasons for your rather laid-back approach. Make sure that you are not bottling up your emotions and denying your true feelings, because this can be just as harmful as outright anger. Remember, it's ok to feel angry sometimes, as long as you express it in a healthy way.
sepertinya mulai sekarang, harus lebih ekspresif kalau marah atau mangkel. buah jauh-jauh rasa ndak penak sama orang. :(.
test nya di sini
